How We See Things.

The topic of discussion during a recent training event was frameworks and perspectives.  We all have them — and they have a huge impact on the decisions we make and the directions we take.  In other words, our frameworks impact our leadership. The following quote really captured our discussion. We do not see things as […]

An Odd Request

Last week I encouraged you to listen with your eyes.  Today I am encouraging you to listen with your feet. This probably sounds like an odd request – Listen with your feet. Indulge me for a few minutes and consider that feet are about movement.  Our feet usually take us some place.  As you listen, […]

What is it like to be in a conversation with you?

In his book “Meeting Matters”, Paul Axtell asks the following question:  What is it like for others to be in a conversation with you? Ouch! What a great question! I contend that if you spend consider this question that you will gain valuable insights that will greatly improve the way you communicate. Consider some of […]

Listen with your Eyes!

The key to effective communication is recognizing that 90% of communication is non-verbal.  One of the first things we teach new coaches is to stop focusing on the actual words and start listening to the non-verbal communication. I was reminded of this a few weeks ago while training in Lima, Peru.  My Spanish is very […]

Where is Val this Week?

This past week the Methodist Church of Peru and the Teachers of the Colegio of  the Americas High School of Callao have been learning how to coach.  Spearheaded by Dr. Guilermo Yoshikawa, about 100 pastors and teachers have been in attendance. While most of the participants were in attendance at the Colegio of the Americas, […]

What does coaching have to do with discipleship?

Interested in becoming a Discipleship Coach? Jesus asked 300+ questions requiring listeners to think through their responses about following Him. How are questions part of your disciple making? @nelsonroth Coaching4Clergy, in partnership with Relevant Ministry, Inc. is excited to offer this 24 hour certificate program which will provide pastors and ministry leaders the necessary discipleship coaching […]

They are called “Community Grandmothers.”

It all begins with listening!  Every new coach in our training program hears me say this at the beginning of their training.  Throughout their training, we regularly remind them that while the other coaching competencies are important, listening is the most important one! There is growing evidence to support this claim. Consider the Friendship Bench Program, […]

The Problem with Telling People What to Do!

We finally have solid evidence about the problem with telling people what to do. A research project in 2009 reveals brain activity – actually, a lack of brain activity – when we are being told what to do. Here’s the research in a nutshell.  When someone is telling us what to do or giving us advice, […]

Get in Touch with Your Inner Tortoise!

Faster. Sooner. Quicker. It seems like this is what we want. Many of Today’s Leaders believe that success is closely tied to the speed at which things are done. As a result, many leaders pick up the pace for themselves, as well as for those they lead. Consider for a moment the value of slowing […]

JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE IN CHARGE…

Every once in a while a phrase catches my attention.  That’s what happened afew days ago.  While quickly scanning my HBR articles, I stopped mid-scan and read:  JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE IN CHARGE DOESN’T MEAN YOU SHOULD RUN EVERY MEETING. Paul Axtel, the person that coined this phrase, is the author of the book, Meetings Matter: […]