When Good Coaches Struggle to Get Clients

Whether you make your living from coaching individual clients and groups, or you’re an internal coach waiting for employees to be sent your way, you need to drum up business. It’s not enough to be a great coach; you must promote yourself and show people the value of coaching. Here are four key ways to […]

Do You Have Four Seconds to Be a Better Leader?

I’m learning a lot from my Crossfit workouts – and not just about exercise. The trainer has drilled new ideas into me. He tells me to forget about the amount of weight I’m lifting (really?) and focus on form and breathing. Most guys get form, he says, but few get breathing. He’s teaching me how […]

Every Time I Use Coaching I Am Amazed!

Our Fall Coach Training Programs begin in just a few weeks. Our online classes offer the convenience of learning from your home or office, while our on-site training events provide an intensive in-person classroom experience. If you are wondering whether coaching skills can make a difference, read what one of our recent students has to say: […]

How Good Are You at Saying NO?

If you’re like many of today’s leaders, saying NO is a challenge. I get it. You want to help. You want to make a difference. That’s why you are in leadership. Yet, if you say YES to everything – you become ineffective! What do you do? Learn to say NO! That’s right-saying NO is a learned skill. And […]

Leaders need to unlearn, as well as learn!

I have been noticing a recurring theme from the leaders that I coach.  It’s the need for leaders to unlearn, as well as learn. Several that I am coaching are focusing a significant amount of their time and energy on unlearning. Here are a few examples: One leader recently discovered how much “telling and advising” she had […]

Stop Telling People What to Do

We finally have solid evidence about the problem with telling people what to do. A research project in 2009 reveals brain activity – actually, a lack of brain activity – when we are being told what to do. Here’s the research in a nutshell. When someone is telling us what to do or giving us advice, […]

How to Get in Touch with Your Inner Tortoise

Faster. Sooner. Quicker. It seems like this is what we want. Many of Today’s Leaders believe that success is closely tied to the speed at which things are done. As a result, many leaders pick up the pace for themselves, as well as for those they lead. Consider for a moment the value of slowing things […]

How to Be Less Defensive

The topic during one of our recent coaching classes was how to be less defensive. We had a lot of laughs and came up with lots of ideas. One of the students shared a concept I had never heard before. It’s the concept of imperturbability, which he learned in his martial arts training. Here’s what he told […]

How Do You Lead When You Disagree with the Decision?

Earlier this week I was coaching a group of leaders. In several instances the leaders reported that decision in their organization had been made that they did not agree with. To make matters worse, in their role as leader, it was their job to implement the decision. One leader after another reported the struggle with leading when […]

How Do You Lead When You’re Constantly Being Interrupted?

I hear it repeatedly from the leaders I coach. ·        I can’t get anything done. ·        The interruptions are constant. ·        I lose my focus, and the day is gone. How do you lead when you’re constantly being interrupted? I like the suggestion of scheduling Untouchable Days. (Neil Pasricha, March 16, 2018 HBR: Why You Need an Untouchable […]

What an Exciting Time to Be in South Korea!

It’s been an exciting couple of weeks in South Korea.  What better time to be in South Korea than the past week with the Leadership Summit? How interesting to hear firsthand from South Koreans their feelings and thoughts about this historic event. I was privy to the “word on the street.” In addition, we successfully facilitated our […]

Who Do You Trust Enough to Be Truthful About What’s Really Happening?

Matt Bloom, PH. D. of the Well Being at Work Project (University of Notre Dame) recently reminded leaders of the importance of the theater stage. He spoke first about the leader being “on stage” when you are doing your work, and then he spoke of the leader being “off stage” when you are away from your […]

Three Words that Will Dramatically Improve Your Listening Skills

One of the core skills that we teach is deep listening. I tell students that this kind of listening is similar to an iceberg. What we see above the water line is just a tiny fraction of what is below the surface. It’s the same with deep listening. The really important information is below the […]

Many Leaders are One Bad Habit Away from Being a Great Leader

Most of us are one bad habit away from being a great leader. A VitalSmarts study of close to 1,000 managers found that 97% of us have at least one career-limiting habit, a habit that keeps us from greater success or enjoyment in our career. Unfortunately, their research also shows that while most of us have been […]

Why am I excited to be in the Ukraine?

Hello from Zhitomyr, Ukraine. Why am I excited to be here? It’s the perfect place for our last training event of 2017. Coaching is new to the Ukraine. People have heard about it, but very few have ever worked with a coach. The business men and women are eager to learn, and so are the ministry leaders. […]

Are you looking to coach both inside and outside your local church?

I am pleased to announce that enrollment in our next coach training program has begun. This upcoming program is ideal for faith based leaders that are looking to coach in a broad community context. In addition to gaining mastery of the coaching competencies and skills, participants will also develop expertise to coach both inside and outside of the […]


One of the things that I enjoy about coaching teams is that every team is unique and different. In fact, teams often have their own code language. For example, when one of the members of teams I recently coached would get side-tracked or long-winded, the members of the team would say: ELMO! This was followed by light laughter and […]

You Don’t Want to Miss This!

It’s hard to believe that the summer months of June, July and August have come and gone. As we turn our attention to September and the Fall months, there are a number of upcoming events that I want to make sure that you are aware of. HAWAII COACH TRAINING: Join us in Hawaii for 4 days […]

Testing the Waters

I’m testing the waters. (I.E. Gauging interest.) We have a wonderful opportunity to offer coach training in Hawaii the week of January 8, 2018.  What a great learning environment – Hawaii! If you are looking to become a credentialed coach, or if you are already credentialed and are looking for CEU’s for renewal, consider joining […]

Discipleship Coach Training begins soon!

Interested in becoming a Discipleship Coach? Jesus asked 300+ questions requiring listeners to think through their responses about following Him. How are questions part of your disciple making? @nelsonroth Coaching4Clergy, in partnership with Relevant Ministry, Inc. is excited to offer this 24 hour certificate program which will provide pastors and ministry leaders the necessary discipleship coaching […]

What does coaching have to do with discipleship?

Interested in becoming a Discipleship Coach?    Our next series of classes begins soon. Our Discipleship Coaching Certification, in partnership with Relevant Ministry, Inc. is a 24 hour certificate program which will provide pastors and ministry leaders the necessary discipleship coaching skills to lead their discipleship ministry.  It is perfect for the coach that wants […]

I’ve gone from scratchy AM radio to full HD cinema surround sound!

I frequently receive notes from students about their newly acquired coaching skills.  Here’s one that recently came across my desk after a listening class. I have been listening with all my senses all week. As a predominantly auditory processor it has been eye opening (pun intended) to listen with my other senses. It’s amazing to watch […]

Thank you California, the Pacific Islands and Nevada!

Last week I had the opportunity to train 37 United Methodist Pastors from the California-Pacific Annual Conference and 17 United Church of Christ Pastors from the California-Nevada Conference. I am happy to report that all 54 pastors now have coaching skills to add to their professional toolkit. My favorite part of training a group is […]

Good News from South Korea!

I have good news to report to you from South Korea.  As a result of our partnership with the Korean Methodist Conference in South Korea, along with the General Board of Higher Education in Ministry of the United Methodist Church, 7 Korean Methodist Pastors received their first coaching credential. Congratulations to these 7 new accredited […]

Commas Save Lives!

An advertisement in a magazine recently caught my attention. They were selling T-Shirts with all kinds of sayings on them.  One of the T-Shirts said, “Commas Save Lives.”  And then underneath was written: Let’s eat Grandma Let’s eat, Grandma What a clever thought!  And true. The pause that the comma adds changes everything. Most in ministry have just […]