How to Create a Culture of Appreciation in Your Church

In this month’s feature article, Change Can Only Grow in a Culture of Appreciation, we discussed how people need to feel good about change – from the inside out. But how can church leaders help make that happen?

  1. Stop trying to fix everyone. What if everyone were perfect just as they are – just the way God made them? Can you rewrite your own job description to stop trying to change people and start developing who they already are?
  2. Practice Ben Zander’s grading style. Ben Zander is a conductor, teacher, International speaker and the co-author (with his wife, Rosamund Stone Zander) of The Art of Possibility. In the book, he describes greeting new students by announcing that they already had an “A” – all they had to do now was keep it. How can you treat the people – including yourself – as if they have already earned the “A”?
  3. Place more emphasis on who they are being versus what they are doing. Be the catalyst who awakens people to who God made them to be; to their “A” status. Then get out of the way and let them express who they are.
  4. Include these two elements in EVERY conversation: curiosity and acknowledgment. Showing genuine interest in and appreciation for the people around you will lay the groundwork for tremendous change.

These strategies are more mind shifts than concrete actions. I’d like to hear how you plan to incorporate them in your day-to-day interactions in your Church. Please post your comments below (or email me privately, if you prefer).

Remember, change is not about forcing things (or people); it is about embracing and appreciating your current assets (including people). This will inspire the passion and commitment your church needs in order to move forward to bigger and better things.

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  1. Wendell Skinner says:

    These suggestions remind me to see people as God sees them. Church members are a gift from God to be appreciated for who they are. My attempts to make them perfect “like me” only discounts what God has done and is doing in their lives. This week I will incorporate these suggestions in my daily walk.

  2. J. Val Hastings says:

    Curious to hear how this works out for you. Keep us updated.

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