This month I’m revealing some of my favorite coaching questions – the ones that I personally come back to most often. The first question was: What do I really, REALLY want?
Following up from that question is:
What are my beliefs and assumptions about what I really, REALLY want?
I’m continually discovering that I have limiting beliefs and assumptions about a lot of things – I’m often not aware of them at a conscious level, and they’re getting in the way. By regularly asking this question of myself, I make important discoveries.
For example, last month I was thrilled to announce that Coaching4Clergy is going global, yet even as the announcement went out there were some thoughts I needed to clear away. The biggee for me is always, “I’m just Val, a nice guy, but who am I to be going global?”
Once I uncover these types of thoughts, I can remind myself, “Okay, I’m just Val, AND I’m going to show up and give it my best.” What I discover again and again about my limiting belief is that “just Val” is actually who’s needed.
I’ve coached a lot of churches and people who’ve had some great plans. When I ask this question, eventually the answer comes out in one form or another that, “I don’t really think our plan will work.” And that opens the door to a whole other conversation.
Without that conversation, without that question, without acknowledging that limiting belief, we stay blocked and nothing changes.