Val’s Favorite Coaching Questions, Part Two

This month I’m revealing some of my favorite coaching questions – the ones that I personally come back to most often. The first question was: What do I really, REALLY want?

Following up from that question is:

What are my beliefs and assumptions about what I really, REALLY want?

I’m continually discovering that I have limiting beliefs and assumptions about a lot of things – I’m often not aware of them at a conscious level, and they’re getting in the way. By regularly asking this question of myself, I make important discoveries.

For example, last month I was thrilled to announce that Coaching4Clergy is going global, yet even as the announcement went out there were some thoughts I needed to clear away. The biggee for me is always, “I’m just Val, a nice guy, but who am I to be going global?”

Once I uncover these types of thoughts, I can remind myself, “Okay, I’m just Val, AND I’m going to show up and give it my best.” What I discover again and again about my limiting belief is that “just Val” is actually who’s needed.

I’ve coached a lot of churches and people who’ve had some great plans. When I ask this question, eventually the answer comes out in one form or another that, “I don’t really think our plan will work.” And that opens the door to a whole other conversation.

Without that conversation, without that question, without acknowledging that limiting belief, we stay blocked and nothing changes.

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J. Val Hastings

J. Val Hastings, MCC, is the Founder and President of Coaching4Clergy, which provides specialized training for pastors, church leaders and coaches. Val is the author of the book The Next Great Awakening: How to Empower God’s People with a Coach Approach to Ministry and the e-book The E3-Church: Empowered, Effective and Entrepreneurial Leadership That Will Keep Your Church Alive. Val currently holds the designation of Master Certified Coach through the International Coach Federation, the highest coaching designation.

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