What does coaching have to do with discipleship?

Interested in becoming a Discipleship Coach?    Our next series of classes begins soon. Our Discipleship Coaching Certification, in partnership with Relevant Ministry, Inc. is a 24 hour certificate program which will provide pastors and ministry leaders the necessary discipleship coaching skills to lead their discipleship ministry.  It is perfect for the coach that wants […]

I’ve gone from scratchy AM radio to full HD cinema surround sound!

I frequently receive notes from students about their newly acquired coaching skills.  Here’s one that recently came across my desk after a listening class. I have been listening with all my senses all week. As a predominantly auditory processor it has been eye opening (pun intended) to listen with my other senses. It’s amazing to watch […]

Thank you California, the Pacific Islands and Nevada!

Last week I had the opportunity to train 37 United Methodist Pastors from the California-Pacific Annual Conference and 17 United Church of Christ Pastors from the California-Nevada Conference. I am happy to report that all 54 pastors now have coaching skills to add to their professional toolkit. My favorite part of training a group is […]

Good News from South Korea!

I have good news to report to you from South Korea.  As a result of our partnership with the Korean Methodist Conference in South Korea, along with the General Board of Higher Education in Ministry of the United Methodist Church, 7 Korean Methodist Pastors received their first coaching credential. Congratulations to these 7 new accredited […]

Commas Save Lives!

An advertisement in a magazine recently caught my attention. They were selling T-Shirts with all kinds of sayings on them.  One of the T-Shirts said, “Commas Save Lives.”  And then underneath was written: Let’s eat Grandma Let’s eat, Grandma What a clever thought!  And true. The pause that the comma adds changes everything. Most in ministry have just […]

Happy Easter!

My prayer is that Holy Week will be a sacred and special time for you! All the best to you, _________________________________________________________________________

It’s Time to Register!

We currently offer two coach training programs:  Coaching4Today’s Leaders:  This training is for ALL PROFESSIONALS including Business Leaders, Therapists, Consultants, professionals, stay-at-home parents, HR, supervisors and non-profits.  Coaching4Clergy: This training has been created with the ministry leader in mind.  It is ideal for pastors, ministry staff, church leaders and volunteers. We are now accepting applicants […]

Perspective Matters!

This is a twist to a classic question. How do you view this glass? Half Empty Half Full The Glass is too Big Completely FULL with half water and half air While it is entertaining to consider our view of a glass of water, in real life our view makes a huge difference. Coaches have […]

How Good Are You At Saying NO?

How good are you at saying NO? Saying NO is a challenge for many leaders, especially those in ministry.  I get it. We want to help. We want to make a difference. That’s why we entered ministry.  Yet, if we say YES to everything – we become ineffective! What do we do?  Learn to say […]

The Importance of Shifting Your Perspective?

It’s amazing the difference that even the slightest change of perspective can make. In your work as a leader, I want to encourage you to regularly shift your perspective. This intentional shift in perspective will frequently provide you with important information that will be of value to you as a leader. How do you shift […]

How We See Things.

The topic of discussion during a recent training event was frameworks and perspectives.  We all have them — and they have a huge impact on the decisions we make and the directions we take.  In other words, our frameworks impact our leadership. The following quote really captured our discussion. We do not see things as […]

An Odd Request

Last week I encouraged you to listen with your eyes.  Today I am encouraging you to listen with your feet. This probably sounds like an odd request – Listen with your feet. Indulge me for a few minutes and consider that feet are about movement.  Our feet usually take us some place.  As you listen, […]

What is it like to be in a conversation with you?

In his book “Meeting Matters”, Paul Axtell asks the following question:  What is it like for others to be in a conversation with you? Ouch! What a great question! I contend that if you spend consider this question that you will gain valuable insights that will greatly improve the way you communicate. Consider some of […]

Listen with your Eyes!

The key to effective communication is recognizing that 90% of communication is non-verbal.  One of the first things we teach new coaches is to stop focusing on the actual words and start listening to the non-verbal communication. I was reminded of this a few weeks ago while training in Lima, Peru.  My Spanish is very […]

Where is Val this Week?

This past week the Methodist Church of Peru and the Teachers of the Colegio of  the Americas High School of Callao have been learning how to coach.  Spearheaded by Dr. Guilermo Yoshikawa, about 100 pastors and teachers have been in attendance. While most of the participants were in attendance at the Colegio of the Americas, […]

What does coaching have to do with discipleship?

Interested in becoming a Discipleship Coach? Jesus asked 300+ questions requiring listeners to think through their responses about following Him. How are questions part of your disciple making? @nelsonroth Coaching4Clergy, in partnership with Relevant Ministry, Inc. is excited to offer this 24 hour certificate program which will provide pastors and ministry leaders the necessary discipleship coaching […]

They are called “Community Grandmothers.”

It all begins with listening!  Every new coach in our training program hears me say this at the beginning of their training.  Throughout their training, we regularly remind them that while the other coaching competencies are important, listening is the most important one! There is growing evidence to support this claim. Consider the Friendship Bench Program, […]

The Problem with Telling People What to Do!

We finally have solid evidence about the problem with telling people what to do. A research project in 2009 reveals brain activity – actually, a lack of brain activity – when we are being told what to do. Here’s the research in a nutshell.  When someone is telling us what to do or giving us advice, […]

Get in Touch with Your Inner Tortoise!

Faster. Sooner. Quicker. It seems like this is what we want. Many of Today’s Leaders believe that success is closely tied to the speed at which things are done. As a result, many leaders pick up the pace for themselves, as well as for those they lead. Consider for a moment the value of slowing […]

JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE IN CHARGE…

Every once in a while a phrase catches my attention.  That’s what happened afew days ago.  While quickly scanning my HBR articles, I stopped mid-scan and read:  JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE IN CHARGE DOESN’T MEAN YOU SHOULD RUN EVERY MEETING. Paul Axtel, the person that coined this phrase, is the author of the book, Meetings Matter: […]

A + I + A = ?

I have a formula that provides me a quick, easy assessment of the person I am coaching.  Frequently, during a coaching session, I will share this formula and ask that they do a quick self-assessment. Here’s the formula:  A + I + A = REAL Change   A = Awareness:  Before any intentional change can […]

Happy Thanksgiving!

Thanksgiving is a wonderful time of the year.  In addition to great food and family, it also provides us the opportunity to give thanks. At Coaching4Clergy, we are so thankful for your support, your commitment, and most of all, you! HAPPY THANKSGIVING! All the best to you, _________________________________________________________________________

What one bishop said about coaching!

Over the years we have had the privilege to provide coaching and coach training to numerous denominational leaders – including several bishops.   One of our graduates, a bishop, wrote me the following note. Here’s what she wrote: I was convinced that coaching was a valued tool that should be in the toolkit of every preacher, […]

What is your Unlearning Style?

I have been noticing a recurring theme from the leaders that I coach.  It’s the need for leaders to unlearn, as well as learn.  Several that I am coaching are focusing a significant amount of their time and energy on unlearning. Here are a few examples: One leader recently realized how much “telling and advising” she […]

Your Hunger vs Your History

Earlier today I discovered a great quote.  Immediately after reading it I thought of many of the leaders that I coach. Here’s the quote: “What is possible for you is dictated by your hunger, not your history.” Brendon Burchard: American Motivational Author. Many of today’s leaders are focused on their history — past events and achievements.  This […]